I know, I know, you had a terrible break and you had been with your ex for so long it feels like someone has lopped off your arm and now you have to function without it. You're sure you want your ex back. . . life just isn't the same now. Right now I would like you to pause, think and then answer this question:
Are You Sure You Want To Get Your Ex Back?
Allow me to put this all in perspective for you. If you and your ex had such a wonderful relationship, why did you break up? Here are some points that you should consider before you truly decide whether you want to rekindle the romance.
Did being in a relationship mean the same thing for both of you?
Often relationships mean different things to different people. Was your ex one of those that expected you to drop everything and be together 24/7? Or was the opposite true-one evening a week is enough? Both of these scenarios are fine if both parties are in agreement. If not, you may not want to get back together with your ex afterall!
Did You Have the Same Ideas About Commitment?
He likes to have fun with his buddies and doesn't see himself as a husband and father, she has always dreamed of her wedding day and wants nothing more than to be a mother. Eventually this relationship will come to an end and if neither party is willing to alter their attitudes towards commitment, then this is a relationship that should be done. . .and never rekindled.
Did You Uphold the Same Spiritual Beliefs?
Religion can be a deal breaker and few are willing to waver when it comes to their beliefs. If your religion is that important to you, maybe it is time to find someone within your own faith that will love and respect you for who you are, and that includes your religious beliefs.
What were the main "bones of contention" in your relationship and can they be resolved? All relationships have their issues and anyone who tells you different is lying. Within these issues are recurring concerns that one, or both parties have. So, if this issue happens to be not picking up socks then there is a chance it can be solved. If this issue is, "You are always flirting with the opposite sex and this bothers me," then maybe things are too far gone.
Right now it may seem that the end of your relationship is akin to the end of the world, but in reality it's simply a time to step back and reflect on it all. After careful reflection, if you still want to get back with your ex, then you are ready to give it a go.
If you think your ready click here to get your ex back.
Sunday, August 17, 2008
Thursday, August 7, 2008
My story: How I got my ex back.
I know it sounds corny, but my wife and I have known each other since sixth grade and I have been in love with her since the day she sat down beside me in Mr. Fields’ class all those years ago. But we haven’t been without our problems. I mean come on now…grade six was a long time ago. We’ve gone through a lot of living and a lot of ups and downs since Mr. Fields and our love that came together over the Bunsen burner.
We got together. We broke up. We got together. We broke up.
You get the picture.
As we matured and grew up it became obvious to both of us that this was more than just an adolescent crush. Our relationship was something to hold onto. Wanting to hold on, and actually doing it are two different things, especially when our relationship started when we were so young. We still had college and long distances to overcome.
My wife, girlfriend at the time, decided to go away to college. I just wanted to stay home and get to the business of making money. While I toiled away at a $20 an hour job building up my bank account, my girlfriend was in another town, building up her brain.
Our lives were very, very different and for the first time since sixth grade, we grew apart.
It was gradual and silent. But it was happening.
I was working long, hard hours at a laborious job. She was studying until the early hours of the morning. We were simply too tired to notice that something was happening.
It could have been the nail in the coffin of our relationship. It could have been the end of our special friendship. It could have been…
But I didn’t let it.
I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl. I knew that if I didn’t do something drastic, the path that I had laid out for myself would veer sharply down a road I didn’t want to go.
So, I quit my job, took a paycut and moved to be close to the woman that I loved.
I made sacrifices for what was important. I knew that she meant more to me than any job no matter how well it paid. I knew that she meant more to me than any apartment, buddy or hobby that I had. I knew that if I didn’t take action I would regret it for the rest of my life.
I fought hard to get her back. I called her every day, no matter how tired I was. I never broke a date or a promise. She was my number one priority.
It was a sacrifice. But do you know what? It paid off. We have been happily married for five years and not a day goes by that I don’t thank the Lord that she and I are together.
The moral of the story…?
Any cherished relationship can make it if you are willing to sacrifice anything to get it back. Evaluate your priorities, decide what is important and most of all, ACT!! If your ex is really worth getting back, then no action is too big or too small! For more help on saving your relationship click here!!
We got together. We broke up. We got together. We broke up.
You get the picture.
As we matured and grew up it became obvious to both of us that this was more than just an adolescent crush. Our relationship was something to hold onto. Wanting to hold on, and actually doing it are two different things, especially when our relationship started when we were so young. We still had college and long distances to overcome.
My wife, girlfriend at the time, decided to go away to college. I just wanted to stay home and get to the business of making money. While I toiled away at a $20 an hour job building up my bank account, my girlfriend was in another town, building up her brain.
Our lives were very, very different and for the first time since sixth grade, we grew apart.
It was gradual and silent. But it was happening.
I was working long, hard hours at a laborious job. She was studying until the early hours of the morning. We were simply too tired to notice that something was happening.
It could have been the nail in the coffin of our relationship. It could have been the end of our special friendship. It could have been…
But I didn’t let it.
I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl. I knew that if I didn’t do something drastic, the path that I had laid out for myself would veer sharply down a road I didn’t want to go.
So, I quit my job, took a paycut and moved to be close to the woman that I loved.
I made sacrifices for what was important. I knew that she meant more to me than any job no matter how well it paid. I knew that she meant more to me than any apartment, buddy or hobby that I had. I knew that if I didn’t take action I would regret it for the rest of my life.
I fought hard to get her back. I called her every day, no matter how tired I was. I never broke a date or a promise. She was my number one priority.
It was a sacrifice. But do you know what? It paid off. We have been happily married for five years and not a day goes by that I don’t thank the Lord that she and I are together.
The moral of the story…?
Any cherished relationship can make it if you are willing to sacrifice anything to get it back. Evaluate your priorities, decide what is important and most of all, ACT!! If your ex is really worth getting back, then no action is too big or too small! For more help on saving your relationship click here!!
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
Get your ex back!!
It may look like an impossible dream that you could ever get back that unique bond that you and your ex shared for so long. But it's not impossible to get your ex back, you just have to be willing to make a change in your life to become the person who your ex fell in love with when this all started.
If you are reading this, odds are your life is in a place that you wish it wasn't. You've been through a hard period in your relationship and just want things to go back to how they once were. Here's the thing, when relationships become long term, often times one partner, the other, or sometimes both become complacent. Where once there was passion, adoring, flowers, snuggles and hand holding there became a certain lack of caring. It is this complacency that can be the Achilles heel for so many relationships. Even if you've been together for years it is crucial to make the effort to make the other person feel appreciated. Every relationship comes together over mutual attraction and excitement. All you have to do is find that attraction again. Become attractive. If you stopped looking your best for the one you love, you have to start stepping it up. If you are a male, shave, put on cologne, start working out. If you are a female, start caring again about how you look. Put on make-up, get a new hairstyle, start going to the gym!
If you've been together awhile, then odds are that your break up didn't occur simply because you stopped putting on make up or shaving. These are simply symptoms to a deeper rooted problem. Odds are if you have been ignoring yourself you have also been ignoring your partner and their needs. This can often happen in long term relationships and it takes energy and effort to ensure that it doesn't continue to happen. If you are serious about getting your ex back you have to be sure that you are thinking of their needs. What things do they like? Do you give them time to do them? Were you too wrapped up in your own world to see what was going on?
At some point you are going to have to talk with your ex, and when you do be sure to discuss the needs and wants of your ex. If you truly want to get your ex back then you have to begin by taking their needs into consideration and putting your needs on the back burner! If you are able to do this you will be one step closer to getting your ex back into your life. . . hopefully this time it will be forever!
If you are reading this, odds are your life is in a place that you wish it wasn't. You've been through a hard period in your relationship and just want things to go back to how they once were. Here's the thing, when relationships become long term, often times one partner, the other, or sometimes both become complacent. Where once there was passion, adoring, flowers, snuggles and hand holding there became a certain lack of caring. It is this complacency that can be the Achilles heel for so many relationships. Even if you've been together for years it is crucial to make the effort to make the other person feel appreciated. Every relationship comes together over mutual attraction and excitement. All you have to do is find that attraction again. Become attractive. If you stopped looking your best for the one you love, you have to start stepping it up. If you are a male, shave, put on cologne, start working out. If you are a female, start caring again about how you look. Put on make-up, get a new hairstyle, start going to the gym!
If you've been together awhile, then odds are that your break up didn't occur simply because you stopped putting on make up or shaving. These are simply symptoms to a deeper rooted problem. Odds are if you have been ignoring yourself you have also been ignoring your partner and their needs. This can often happen in long term relationships and it takes energy and effort to ensure that it doesn't continue to happen. If you are serious about getting your ex back you have to be sure that you are thinking of their needs. What things do they like? Do you give them time to do them? Were you too wrapped up in your own world to see what was going on?
At some point you are going to have to talk with your ex, and when you do be sure to discuss the needs and wants of your ex. If you truly want to get your ex back then you have to begin by taking their needs into consideration and putting your needs on the back burner! If you are able to do this you will be one step closer to getting your ex back into your life. . . hopefully this time it will be forever!
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